Rakesh Nagpal Trustee FOM 1960 – 2009

Death be not Proud

What can you say about a twenty-five-year-old girl who died? That she was beautiful and brilliant? That she loved Mozart and Bach, the Beatles, and me? “

What touched me most about these lines from Love Story was the finality of the loss. Now, decades after I first read it and in a moment of a very shocking loss I am able to see something else in this oft repeated, quoted line. What Jennifer left behind in the heart of her beloved Oliver is a recognition that her love for him was for ever ……and another quotation came to my mind.

To live in hearts we leave behind
Is not to die
– Thomas Campbell
We lost Rakesh Nagpal FOM team leader in New Delhi in a most tragic and senseless car accident a fortnight ago. Rakesh would have been fifty next year. He leaves behind his beautiful wife Neelu and their adorable son and daughter , eight year old twins. And he had been battling CML for a decade. What a brave soldier he was ; no not a soldier but a Commander in Chief for not just the Friends of Max in Delhi but all of the warriors in the FOM Battalion listened to the beat of his drums and his call to attention.

As a Trustee of the Friends of Max Trust Rakesh has been a source of great strength and support with his calm and dignified approach to all related matters which helped in moving ahead with the procedures and processes.

Not a day has gone by in these seven years that I have known him that we have not communicated; if not by phone or e mail then by that nebulous medium that we call a thought wave. If I am so bereft and in such total shock then I cannot bring myself to think how his family and his friends must be weathering this blow.

He was a brother and a friend, a philosopher and guide to all of us and one glance from his warm laughter filled eyes was enough to melt the coolest of demeanors, one hug enough to soothe all the hurting and his gentle voice could silence even the most deafening fears.

He led from the front, showing the way in care and compassion, volunteering his services for anything that was needed by anyone ; whether it was helping the doctors in AIIMS fill application forms or bring piping hot Samosas for our meetings in the Lodhi Gardens !!

Rakesh Bhaiyya we love you and miss you and I can only quote from another classic

He who has gone, so we but cherish his memory, abides with us, more potent, nay, more present than the living man.
Antoine de Saint-Exupery

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